No, Bad Society, It’s Not Actually Okay Being Fat

There’s A Lot Of Problems With It


So, society has gone in this interesting direction in the last little while.  I really don’t care if you disagree with me in this or not (it’s true, I have zero fucks to give), but it is NOT okay to be fat.

That sounds a little harsh, I know.  This is coming from a fat guy.  By the way, the answer to that question that is floating in the back of your head: No, I have no been brainwashed by society and the media.  Please note:  If you like who you are, and don’t want to change anything about yourself, that’s perfectly fine.  I’m okay with this.  If all you’re doing here is for entertainment purposes, Welcome!  Please enjoy the show.

There is this massive shift nowadays to tell people the importance of being self confident.  I can not make this any more clear, or important: I AM 100% ALL FOR BEING SELF CONFIDENT AND ENCOURAGING PEOPLE TO PUSH THEMSELVES TO BE THE BEST THEY ABSOLUTELY CAN BE. What I am NOT okay with, is the shift in attitude saying that “Being fat is totally okay,”.

What do I mean by this?  There are songs by “musicians” (and I use the term very loosely) that basically say it’s okay be plus sized, but not okay to be fit or skinny.  Example, there is a song by a person I will call “Ricky Menagerie” that says “Fuck them skinny bitches,”.  It’s not okay to be skinny (which is funny because this individual had surgery to look a certain way).  You like the song I am talking about?  Fuck off and die.  It sucks to begin with.

Anyways, I have seen it many times in the last few years.  People advocating getting in shape and being healthy, and the internet and news outlets just ripping them apart.  Why?  Because they’re being “insensitive” to people’s feelings, or don’t know the struggles of what it’s like.  Or some other bullshit excuse blaming someone else for their poor decisions, holding everyone else accountable, except for themselves.

The only thing I will say to that: Fuck off.  Remember kids, YOU, like ME, are the problem.  We are the only ones that can do anything about it.  I know the struggle, and the hardships, and what the process is that you go through to lose the weight.

There are other songs out there that do something similar.  One that talks about Base Jumping or something.  I do find the song catchy, and find myself singing along to it.  The message it puts out there of being a strong and confident woman is amazingly huge, because I do find there are not enough messages out there geared towards women telling them to basically love themselves for who they are, and essentially fuck the rest of society for putting you down.  However, re-read paragraphs one through three.  I`ll wait.  (Wow, that took longer than I thought.)

My only issue with that song is that it again advocates being bigger as awesome. And it’s not.  There are so many negatives to being obese and overweight, that they totally outweigh (no pun intended) the positive.

I love who I am.  I am confident and strong (hell, I’m talking about this stuff online, without giving a fuck about you trolls out there…Lincoln) and care about myself.  I also care enough about myself to know I have to make the change.

My other issue with the media is actors and other famous people who lose the weight, and talk about how great they feel, get shunned and ostracized by society because they are no longer fat.  Fuck you all once again.  How dare you put someone down for an accomplishment of that magnitude.

You are where you are in life, because that’s where you want to be.  No?  The shut the fuck up and do something.  I understand there are and will always be circumstances where no matter what one does, it doesn’t work.  I know this, and have seen it.  For that rare individual, I am sorry.  I truly and deeply am.  That’s not me being facetious either.  It’s 100% honest and true as to how I feel.  I know people that have been in horrible circumstances, and work their asses off, making all the right choices, but it just doesn’t work.

For the rest of you, shut the fuck up and stop blaming everyone else.

That’s better.

End rant.

Sunday Update: May 10, 2015

Life, FTW


So, how’s it going?  That’s awesome.  Happy Mother’s Day to all the mom’s out there (Hi Mom!).  And for those managing to not murder their dick bag off spring, congrats and keep up the good work!  Also to those moms out there that are managing and working on improving themselves to the best they feel they should be, while having to care for another human (not just their significant other, you know who you are), keep kicking ass.

It’s never easy to get yourself into a routine and stick with it.  There are days where you finally feel like you have found your niche, and you are into a routine that works for you and yours.  You have finally gotten used to things, and have regimented it to a science.  You wake up at a certain time, no longer feeling sluggish.  You prep meals, get the kids to school/daycare, hit the gym or exercise program you love, work, pick up the kids, and get dinner made, help with their homework, cleaning done, and the day is over.  All is well.

Then something comes along and throws a wrench into the mix.  Your whole routine is destroyed, and your journey from flabby to fabby is gone.  You feel like it won’t happen, and say “Fuck it!” and revert back.

Wait..what?  You’re going to let a little thing like life get in the way of your well being?  That’s a horrible way of looking at life.  If that’s how you approach every situation, then quit now.

My job has changed in a direction that I had not foreseen, and currently I am able to get the gym and do any kind of fitness one day a week.  IF I’m lucky.  I am constantly traveling, which makes keeping a decent diet hard.  It’s easier than most people think, but time consuming and a pain in the ass.

The fact that I haven’t gained back most of the weight is awesome.  That’s because, although I haven’t eaten the cleanest while in transit, I also haven’t gorged and consumed 5000 calories.  I still consumed roughly the right amount for me, but with a lack of mobility, that can make it hard.

I know it has been a few weeks since my last update, as being on the road happens.  The key is to remember to get back on the horse and work.  Straight up giving up on your goals just means that we are right, and you’re stupid.  Life happens, and you have to remember to no let that stop you.

Anyways, the results.

Last measurements:

  • Weight: 306.6 lbs
  • Chest: 122.6 cm
  • Right Arm: 45.7 cm
  • Left Arm: 45.7 cm
  • 2″ Above Navel: 120.7 cm
  • Navel: 126.4 cm
  • 2″ Below Navel: 120.0 cm
  • Hips (widest point): 115.6 cm
  • Right Thigh: 68.6 cm
  • Left Thigh: 68.6 cm

This week:

  • Weight: 309.2 lbs
  • Chest: 128.3 cm
  • Right Arm: 47 cm
  • Left Arm: 47 cm
  • 2″ Above Navel: 122.6 cm
  • Navel: 124.5 cm
  • 2″ Below Navel: 121.9 cm
  • Hips (widest point): 116.8 cm
  • Right Thigh: 66 cm
  • Left Thigh: 66 cm

So there are some things that I ended improving on.  Not much though.  My arms have gotten a touch bigger, but I attribute that to my weight training.  The rest is all a matter of getting back on track when things slow down with work.  When that happens I have no idea.  But as I said before, this thing takes time.  If you want an overnight change, go get lipo and stop demanding things.

Quinoa & Chicken Stuffed Peppers

Because Healthy CAN Be Delicious


Well holy crap for a lack of posts on my part.  I do apologize for that, but it has been a busy start to my season with work.  I was only able to make it into a gym for the first time in 2 weeks yesterday.  Which, I have to add, felt fantastic.

Anywho, this one might seem like it is a little on the difficult side, but it’s actually pretty easy to pull off, and people will think you’re a fucking magician.

Let’s start with the chicken:

  • 3 4-oz Boneless Skinless Chicken Breasts
  • My Spice Rub

*If you can’t do this, you’re hopeless and should off yourself now*

  1. Season the chicken with just enough of the spice mix to give it a decent coating.  You’ll notice if it’s too much, trust me.
  2. Bake in a 350F oven for about 20 minutes, or until fully cooked.  This is very key, as Salmonella is not anything I wish on any one you.  I’ve gotten it, and although it is an awesome way to lose 30 pounds in 3 days, it WILL kill most of you.  So make sure your chicken is fully cooked.  If you have a calibrated meat thermometer, the chicken should come to at least 165F on the inside..
  3. Remove from oven, and cool.


  • 1 Cup Quinoa
  • 2 Cups Water
  • 1 Pinch of Salt
  1.  Put water and salt in a pot.  You can substitute the water for broth, it’s entirely up to you.
  2. Bring to a boil and add quinoa.  Let simmer on medium heat for about 5 minutes, stirring every minute or so.
  3. Cover and let sit.  The cooking process will continue while this is going on.  Stir occasionally.

Bruschetta Mix & Stuffing:

  • 3 Roma Tomatoes, Diced
  • 1/2 Red Onion, Fine Diced
  • 6 Fresh Basil Leaves, Fine Chopped.  You can sub 2 TBSP of dried basil if you can’t get fresh.
  • 3 TBSP Parmesan Cheese (The real stuff, not that sand like shit.  That’s not really cheese)
  • 1 TBSP White Wine Vinegar.  You Can Sub Balsamic Vinegar If Desired
  • 3 TBSP Olive Oil
  • 1 Pinch Each of Kosher Salt and Cracked Black Pepper
  • 2 Yellow Peppers
  1. Dice all of the chicken breasts when cooled.  Mix with quinoa and set aside.
  2. Combine all bruschetta mix in a bowl. (Yep, that easy)
  3. Mix bruschetta with quinoa mixture.
  4.  Half the peppers from top to bottom (stem side is the top).  Clean out the core and seeds.
  5.  Stuff with quinoa mix.  You will probably have left over, which is fine.  It makes a great lunch, hot or cold!
  6. Bake in 350F oven for 15 minutes.
  • Total Fat: 11.5 g
  • Total Carbs: 29.2 g
  • Dietary Fiber: 1.6 g
  • Protein: 18.5 g

It seems like a lot of work when reading it, but it’s actually quite easy.  And high in protein.  Give it a try.  The quinoa stuffing mix can be eaten by itself and doesn’t have to be stuffed into anything.

Does You Body Hate You?

It’s A Thought I’ve Often Wondered


The short answer is yes, it really does. Well, not entirely, but mostly.  Your perception of yourself is not what you might think, and that is completely normal.  I have this new guy that’s working for me in one of the kitchens I am currently running.  Small crew, and we have some slower days, so we hang out a lot and chat about a lot of varying things.

On one of these occasions, the dishie was chatting with my 2nd cook, and was telling him little random tricks about the body, and about perception.  One was that the length of your arm, from your elbow to your hand/wrist, was the same length as the size of your foot.  He was stunned and would not believe it.

He said we were all liars and just trying to mess with him, as he was from another country.  I took my shoe off and squatted down (yes Lincoln, and I didn’t even hurt myself.  Ass.), and showed him that it was true.  Dishie did the same, and his jaw dropped.  He ripped off his shoe and tried it.  He nearly fainted.  I can’t make this shit up, and am not.  I’ll also wait while you test this theory out.

Neat, huh?  Anyways, all of us see ourselves in a completely different way.  This is why, for the most part when transitioning from an unhealthy weight (ie. Fat) to less unfit state, you won’t notice much of a difference.  You see yourself in the mirror everyday.  You are along for the transition, and don’t notice most of the change.  You eventually do, but for the first bit, it truly is disheartening.

That mirror that you stare into everyday, lies.  More accurately, your eyes lie to your brain about what it sees.  We each perceive things differently when we stare at ourselves, and judge sizes.  Kind of like that foot/arm trick.  You want to see results?  Cover your mirrors in your home for two weeks.  When you go to the gym, try not to workout in front of a mirror.  Do the best you can to avoid a mirror that shows your body as much as possible.  After two weeks, uncover them.  It’s a nice little confidence boost, and you will see that you actually are making progress.  It’s just a time thing.  Rome wasn’t built in a day.

But there are other times where this isn’t the case.  This is a far more serious issue than people admit, or know about for that matter.  It’s called Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD from here on out).  We all have parts of ourselves we dislike.  Whether it be our toes, big ears, weird noses, or being “Hefty with style”.  BDD is the extreme version of this.  It’s essentially a mental disorder in which you don’t perceive yourself in any normal fashion of any kind.  It leads to excessive dieting and exercise, that can segue into other issues like anorexia and bulimia, and other forms of excessive starvation.

It can also cause a person to form habits of extreme fitness and workout regimens.

When I say excessive, I mean working out for three to five hours a day, way more cardio and weight training than you need, and can cause a person to collapse from exhaustion.  In extreme cases, people have died from the lack of rest and proper dieting.

So far, researchers aren’t 100% certain what causes it, but they have some ideas.  BDD can also cause another issue called Othorexia Nervosa, and no that is not a Harry Potter spell.  It is translated and defined as “a fixation on righteous eating”.  That means that there are people out there that have snapped completely.  They become obsessed with eating healthy, to a point where it is all they can do.  They watch calorie intakes, fats, etc.  Any slip up and they lose it.  They punish themselves, usually with stricter meals, and foods.  It ironically ends up harming them because they become so restrictive, they are not consuming a properly balanced diet.

In some cases, they can become psychologically unbalanced towards themselves. Not in the “time to off myself” category, but with their mental perception on themselves.  Their self esteem becomes really low, and they think less of themselves.  It can lead to social issues with themselves and their peers.  They become isolated, as they don’t want to risk their diets at dinner parties and social gatherings.

If you’re wondering about the difference between anorexia or bulimia , and orhorexia, its not so much an obsession about calories and weight with anorexia and bulimia.  With orthorexics, they obsess about healthy eating, not about being “thin” and losing weight.  I won’t go into symptoms and such, as you can find that in the provided link, but I will say it is more of a serious issue than people think.  Mostly because a lot of people have never heard of it, so they don’t even think it’s an issue.

One thing to remember is that all of the above issues are usually done to the extreme for everything.  Caring about eating healthy and balanced does not mean you are orthorexic, or have another eating disorder.  Wanting to be healthier, and working hard to do it, does not mean you have BDD.  These are all in the extremes, and if you ever notice that you are going to the extremes in terms of weight loss, you need to take a step back and reevaluate what you are doing.

I know I feel like I go to the extreme on occasion, but I also know where to draw the line.  Always keep that thought in your head, and you will be fine.

Sunday Update: April 19, 2015

I Still Can’t Believe It’s Not Butter

Hello again kids!  I hope your week was entertaining.  Mine was uneventful.  Although I did get to see almost all of Alberta in a week, so there was that.  And visiting with old friends (Hi Steve!)

I did end up taking a week off from everything.  Well, almost entirely.  I managed to get into a gym on one evening and did a basic workout.  Mostly to keep muscle mass up and maintain.  Go me!

As I said last week, taking a week off isn’t a bad thing, and I think it helped as well as it could have.  I didn’t overindulge in my diet, and tried to keep it as in check as best I could.

All things considered, I think I did well this week.  But enough about that (and because I really having nothing to rant about here), let`s get on with the results.

Last week`s results:

  • Weight: 306.4 lbs
  • Chest: 125.1 cm
  • Right Arm: 46.4 cm
  • Left Arm: 46.4 cm
  • 2″ Above Navel: 120.7 cm
  • Navel: 126.4 cm
  • 2″ Below Navel: 122.6 cm
  • Hips (widest point): 118.1 cm
  • Right Thigh: 68.6 cm
  • Left Thigh: 68.6 cm

This week:

  • Weight: 306.6 lbs
  • Chest: 122.6 cm
  • Right Arm: 45.7 cm
  • Left Arm: 45.7 cm
  • 2″ Above Navel: 120.7 cm
  • Navel: 126.4 cm
  • 2″ Below Navel: 120.0 cm
  • Hips (widest point): 115.6 cm
  • Right Thigh: 68.6 cm
  • Left Thigh: 68.6 cm

I made some improvements.  Nothing major, which is to be expected from not having done much.  All in all though, I am not upset.